Homosexual adoption biggest gay rights problem

The most important issue that develops if we allow same-sex marriages is not the insurance benefits, the right to keep material goods after the death of a partner or even performing marriages in churches, but the right of the couple to adopt children.
First, adoption is a selfish act. While it may be the most loving act one can do for a child, it is purely self-motivated.
For instance, you must want the responsibility of raising a child before you commit to adopting one for the rest of its natural life. It is in the interest of the couple to adopt, even if the idea is to love another human being and provide a good life for that child.
A couple must want to undertake this responsibility and commit to it for a very long time. A couple must also plan ahead, prepare extra income and learn to educate the child.
Couples adopt children mostly because they cannot have children naturally. It may be the woman who cannot carry the embryo or a man who does not have healthy sperm, but it is not possible for them to conceive. Some resort to artificial insemination, which is a very expensive procedure, while others decide to adopt.
Those against gay adoption argue that same-sex couples cannot produce children naturally so therefore, it is wrong for them to even be together, much less adopt children.
But, if this is your argument, why do you allow heterosexuals that cannot reproduce naturally the right to adopt also?
Another argument is that gays cannot distinguish gender to their children.
For example, a mother is nurturing by nature. She provides the child with the love and emotional support that we do not assign to men. Men provide strength, courage and leadership roles.
This is the idea of a traditional family. But, in fact, men and women don't always assume these traditional roles.
Take for instance, single-parent homes where the mother raises the child in absence of the father, or even a father who raises the children in absence of the mother.
We would never take a child away from a single mom who works two jobs to support her family even if she is never at home because she works all the time. We would never deny a father a right to raise his child just because he does not have enough feminine traits.
We all know men who have more feminine qualities than females and women who have more male qualities.
In a single-parent home where the mother is the leader, she must not only be the bread winner but also provide emotional support. Her lines have been meshed together by being not only the mother but the father.
If this is another argument for homosexual couples not being allowed to adopt children, then it is flawed as well.
Would an adoption agency deny a single mother the right to adopt a child because she is not both genders in one? Is it not better and easier to raise children in a two-parent home even if the two parents are gay?
Also, gay couples do have these gender distinctions. I know of a gay couple who are male and female in actions, if not by anatomy.
For example, one stays home all day doing laundry, preparing dinner and watching TV until the partner arrives home. When the partner does arrive, he eats dinner, takes out the trash and balances the check book before settling down to relax. If I had not told you they were gay, you would have assumed just by the actions they were male and female, or at least a heterosexual couple that live like the Cleavers.
Do you consider the relationship less worthy of child rearing?
Another fact is that these two men have heterosexual friends, like myself, who visit them regularly. We even double date sometimes.
It is clear to anyone who meets them they are hopelessly in love. More in love, I dare say, than any of the heterosexual couples I know.
It might be the hardships they have been through that make them so close but they do have very distinct gender roles.

Another argument against gay adoption is they cannot provide a good life for the child because of the discrimination the child would face. Children are ridiculed all the time in school. It can be something as simple as red hair or an ugly sweater, but we all know children can be very cruel.
It would be the same type of worry for an interracial couple who have children. We don't tell them they cannot have children or adopt. Or, what about a parent who takes his child to class every morning in a wheelchair. All of these things would be a reason for the children to be mean to another child just because she is different.
Furthermore, children are taught as they grow older to validate people on their hearts and actions. Sometimes children raised in certain circumstances surrounded in controversy, more often than not, turn out to be well-rounded people who teach the rest of us things about life we haven't experienced.
Homosexuals should be able to adopt. It would help the children, the couples and society.